The Christian Chameleon

The Christian Chameleon

In this blog I’m going to share a big fail with you.

When I became a Christian, I didn’t know who I was at all. I was lost, then suddenly I had freedom from a lot of bondage in my life. I was in a new crowd and I didn’t fit in immediately.

So, I did what I always used to do when I didn’t fit in. I adapted to my surroundings by imitating people who seemed to have it all together. Or at least more than I did.

Why I let my Baby “Cry it Out”

Why I let my Baby “Cry it Out”

Let me start off by saying that this blog isn’t about what YOU should or shouldn’t do as a parent! Instead, I’d like to share my experience with you.

Alright, here we go.

“Shopping for a Church”

“Shopping for a Church”

Since Kayla and I have been back in Norman we have been “shopping” for a new church. I know I could say that we were “trying out” new churches, but it’s kind of fun to use the terms that I think are silly that Christians use.

We have been to several churches in the area over the years, and in the past couple of months we have attended a few to try to find a place where we can fit in. I believe Sunday we found a place that is good for us. 

Before I go any further I want to explain my view of church.

A New, New Beginning (Oops)

A New, New Beginning (Oops)

James 4:13-16- Look here, you who say, "Today or tomorrow we are going to a certain town and will stay there a year. We will do business there and make a profit." How do you know what your life will be like tomorrow? Your life is like the morning fog--it's here a little while, then it's gone. What you ought to say is, "If the Lord wants us to, we will live and do this or that." Otherwise you are boasting about your own plans, and all such boasting is evil.

This scripture is hard for me for two reasons.

Lessons From Norman Part #4

Lessons From Norman Part #4

By no means have Kayla and I ever been wealthy. So I’m not going to tell you a story about how I was rich, and I gave it all up to become an author and start this ministry. I still have debt collectors calling about old debts and we are trying to pay that stuff off. We are doing the best we can to be responsible with money while still being generous with what we have. At the end of the day, we have a roof over our heads and food on the table. That’s more than some people can say and I’m extremely blessed to have the opportunity to pursue God’s calling in my life full-time. 

It hasn’t always been that way though.

Lessons From Norman Part #3

Lessons From Norman Part #3

Well, this lesson changed my life. As some of you know, I lived in Los Angeles and Seattle before coming to Norman. I was in ministry in both places and I really thought I had life figured out. I was wrong. I'm not sure if you ever "figure it out". When you think you have, then you're probably further from the truth than the people who are still asking questions. When our willingness to learn fades away; we open the door to pride and ignorance.

Lessons From Norman Part #2

Lessons From Norman Part #2

Find friends who will be honest in a world where it seems like everyone is offended by everything. If you truly want to grow as a person you have to be told that you’re wrong and then you have to discover new things. Whether you are writing a book, raising a family, or just trying to become a better version of yourself; iron sharpens iron.

Have you ever hit two pieces of metal together. It doesn’t always sound soft and gentle. Sometimes it even creates sparks. At the end of the day to become sharper you have to learn to grow through healthy confrontation.

How do you approach confrontation in a healthy way?

Lessons From Norman Part #1

Lessons From Norman Part #1

End arguments as quickly as possible by communicating. When Kayla and I first got married small arguments would last hours. Our fundamental beliefs about relationships were nowhere near each other. She believed in "give and take", and I believed in trying to become unoffendable so nothing could bother you. 

Needless to say that caused a rocky foundation when we had disagreements. I tried to get Kayla not to be bothered by whatever was wrong, and she tried to get me to do what she wanted by doing what I wanted. I think both philosophies are helpful when paired together with grace, but neither works when you take a hard stance on one or the other.