Let me start off by saying that this blog isn’t about what YOU should or shouldn’t do as a parent! Instead, I’d like to share my experience with you.
Alright, here we go.
End arguments as quickly as possible by communicating. When Kayla and I first got married small arguments would last hours. Our fundamental beliefs about relationships were nowhere near each other. She believed in "give and take", and I believed in trying to become unoffendable so nothing could bother you.
Needless to say that caused a rocky foundation when we had disagreements. I tried to get Kayla not to be bothered by whatever was wrong, and she tried to get me to do what she wanted by doing what I wanted. I think both philosophies are helpful when paired together with grace, but neither works when you take a hard stance on one or the other.
We are moving to Corpus Christi, TX on Friday. There is a mixture of excitement and anxiety and Kayla and I are choosing to embrace excitement as much as possible. I will miss Norman a lot. It’s where Kayla and I have developed our marriage and even grown our family from two to three with Violet’s arrival.
In January I began talking with Kayla about moving from Norman. It’s hard to explain what led to our conversation without seeming overly spiritual, but I will just share and you can think I’m crazy if you want.