End arguments as quickly as possible by communicating. When Kayla and I first got married small arguments would last hours. Our fundamental beliefs about relationships were nowhere near each other. She believed in "give and take", and I believed in trying to become unoffendable so nothing could bother you.
Needless to say that caused a rocky foundation when we had disagreements. I tried to get Kayla not to be bothered by whatever was wrong, and she tried to get me to do what she wanted by doing what I wanted. I think both philosophies are helpful when paired together with grace, but neither works when you take a hard stance on one or the other.